The idea that it falls to the dad to go out to work while the mom stays at home with the child is an outdated one that has no place in the modern world. Working families have more money for their child’s future. There is no need for a mother to give up her career to look after her new child, she just needs to get the balance right. In the early days it might seem like there’s no way that you’ll ever have time to get back into work but if you just plan carefully, you absolutely can. Here are a few tips on how to balance things well.
This is one of the main things that you need to sort out. If you’re both at work you’ll need somebody to look after your little one and you can’t always rely on friends and family if it’s going to be every single day. Drop in daycare is perfect for working moms because you can just turn up whenever you need to go into work. If your job doesn’t have a regular schedule then it can be difficult to sort out childcare without services like this.
Don’t Feel Guilty
Guilt is a far bigger hurdle for working moms than any of the other logistical stuff. It’s very common for mothers to feel that they are abandoning their child when they return to work but this isn’t true at all. Your child needs time apart from you if they’re going to develop well anyway, so if anything, it’s a good thing. If you’re constantly worrying about whether they’re missing you or not and feeling guilty for leaving them, you aren’t going to be effective at work. There is no point returning to work if you aren’t going to put your all into it so leave that guilt behind.
Organize The Night Before
Trying to get the kids ready for school is a nightmare on its own, but when you’re trying to get yourself ready and then drop them off before going to work yourself, things get a whole lot more difficult. That’s why you need to start getting everything ready the night before and put a good routine in place so you can get up and go. Get everybody’s clothes out the night before, including your own, and make everybody’s lunches ready. It’s also a good idea to avoid any kind of cooked breakfast that will take up extra time, go for cereals instead.
Speak To Your Employer
While it’s possible to be a mom and go back to work at the same time, that doesn’t mean things will be exactly the same as they were before. You’ll still need a lot more flexibility because children are unpredictable. Before you make a decision, speak to your employer and see whether they are willing to accommodate you or not. If they aren’t willing to do that, you might find yourself in trouble later on if you need time off for school events, or if they get sick.
Don’t believe the myth that motherhood and a career are mutually exclusive. They aren’t, it just takes some planning.